Well, it has been nigh a year since I last wrote a "main article" here on this website, which (obviously) has been for the better, since this means I have felt less lately like I have any "important" matters to share, and instead like I'm still just myself learning. And man have I learnt much in this last year!
Another thing that has shifted for me is that I feel less "under the thumb" of the wicked globalists and their conspiracies, since 1) they are all just pawns in God's hand, and can do nothing without it being his will first; 2) the #1 thing in existence is God, like the Law of Idolatry (one of the seven "Noahide" laws) and the Torah of Mosheh teach, and they are truly just another incarnation of the same ever-present forces of evil that God has set up that have always been from the beginning (and likewise God will thwart them as he did all their forerunners); and 3) God wants me (and all of us) to live happily and without worry and such "fallen feelings" as Rabbi Nachman of Breslev speaks about. I think by ignoring them, that truly lessens the effect they have on our lives, since they feed off our attention and emotions, as many their demonic rituals show, being about "capturing" mens' intense emotions for the unclean ghostly forces, as witchcraft does. And the more one trusts in God, the less he will hand one over to the hands of "natural" or "human" forces, and instead will deal straight with that person through fewer between-standers.
Anyway, onto the subject of this post.
So, as I am about to begin the order of seeking a wife, with God's help, this certain teaching of our society and culture has come to my heart, that I have heard sundry times from sundry sources, about the matter of having an intimate relationship with a woman: "It's all about having a good time." [Often this is followed or foregone by the listener being addressed as bro, man, or dude or the like.]
Fortunately, I love analyzing words and statements! [After all, the literallest meaning of the hebrew word DaVaR (the root D.B.R.), which means "word, statement, matter, thing, ..." is actually "order," shown in the words miDBaR (wilderness: a place of order), and D'VoRa (bee: a creature that works in very orderly and structured colonies), and the verb DaBeR (speak) in its literallest meaning actually is about "arranging an order," whence came the meaning of "speaking; arranging orders of sounds and words."]
So, here I will analyze that foolish utterance to show how silly and childish it is, in terms of being the foundation for a relationship.
Now, the thing, by this statement, that is the most important, that "it is all about," is the noun phrase "a good time." That is the most important, the key thing behind a good relationship between a man and a woman. However, missing in that phrase of key importance... are the relationship and the woman! In fact, the key thing that is needed in a relationship, apparently, is "time;" not love, connection, or what have you: but time, which of course is referring only to the way that that "time" is experienced by the one person, the man, not the woman, who has not factored at all into the advisor's whole sentence! That is because the core purpose of such a fool's relationship is none other than himself, and his own inner perception and liking of things (which he then proudly projects outwardly onto the whole of the thing called "time").
And of course the word "good" is as vague as it gets, like something a child might say when asked what kind of life he wishes to live or what kind of traits are fitting in a woman: "good." Of all adjectives, such a weak and empty one was chosen for such a relatively weighty matter, which surely needs care, does it not? This sentence is not an uttering of wisdom, but a baring of his own lazy shallowness, something not to be emulated.
Furthermore, the fool had started his sentence by narrowing the breadth of what should be a lifelong relationship with a life-partner, a woman, by describing the "purpose" that followed with the word "all." Yep, that's it; there is nothing more to such a partnership than a "good time."
But I'm not done yet. There is one more word in that shallow, nihilistic utterance that shows the childishness and lack of responsibility therein... It's the main verb (the other being the contracted form of "is") in the sentence, "having." How about "building, shaping, creating..." or any other verb betokening an active role.. But no, it's "having," as if the fruits of a loving intimate relationship are only passively brought about and experienced, like the fool sits on his couch "having" his "good time". At that rate, is the woman or the relationship even needed?? "Have" your "good time" some way else, thou soul-sucking child, whose relationship with others amounts to but a pleasuring and (timely) satisfying of himself.
This is surely not to attribute these ill traits to those who utter this sentence, for I'm sure (obviously) not much thought went into it, but it is this kind of character that such "advice" puts forth.
I think we should be careful with our words.